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by danso 4660 days ago
Two things:

1. The OP did reach out to the teacher:

> I suggested that she talk to you. I offered to talk to you. I offered to come talk to the class. I offered to send one of my male friends, perhaps a well-known local programmer, to go talk to the class. Finally, my daughter decided to plow through, finish the class, and avoid all her classmates. I hate to think what less-confident girls would have done in the same situation.

2. Well, the issues were, in one way, "resolved" because the daughter passed the class (with an 'A') despite her apparent unhappiness. If you mean that the parent should wait till the issues are actually fixed before blogging...well, if the teacher doesn't respond, then I guess the parent should not blog at all?

edit: My bad, the sentence in context would indicate that OP offered to go talk to the teacher, but the daughter declined. Whether or not the OP should've gone ahead and met the teacher is a whole other issue.
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bangbang 4660 days ago
When this child grows up, there will be no parent to write a blog post. My point being, we all have to learn to navigate this difficult world. Stern letters from mom eventually have to stop.
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interpol_p 4660 days ago
The mother is not paying this school to give her child a lesson in how to deal with bullying. She is paying to allow her daughter to learn programming.

The school has failed because the daughter no longer wishes to put up with the bullying that comes with learning programming (at this particular school).

Seems like a failing of the school that should be addressed.

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Nursie 4660 days ago
When? Is it never ok to defend your kid? Or is there an age cutoff?

Because it seems to me one of the primary functions of a parent, right alongside teaching them to make it in the world.

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hnal943 4659 days ago
It needs to decrease over time. This girl is at the end of her high school experience, she should be handling social interactions with her peers on her own.
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Tycho 4660 days ago
The first point is actually ambiguous. I think she made the 'offer' to her daughter, who insisted that her mother should actually not interfere.
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