[matchbok3]

Extended period? How about 5 years? 15? 25?

There is literally nothing in the world that compares to the joy of having a large, loving, family that you helped create. The day-by-day crying or trivial complaints that you are so short-sighted about simply don't matter.

I encourage you to talk to some happy families.

[thewhitetulip]

Basic statistics, common sense and dire poverty would dictate that there will be a sizable number of unhappy families.

If you're surrounded by only happy families then you're privileged.

I've seen families where husbands come home drunk and best the wives (in 2026)

[matchbok3]

You are in the family you help create. It is not just thrust upon you. The existence of despair need not discourage others to thrive.

[willmarch]

That’s assuming no disease, mental illness, unforeseen events, injuries, forced poverty, unexpected deaths, etc. A great deal of family dynamics is outside of a person’s full control.

[thewhitetulip]

That's also neglecting the fact that Indian boomers are very nosy and the culture pressures adults to have kids but gives 0 support. Neither culture nor religion or the govt does anything to help.

[leosanchez]

> culture pressures adults to have kids but gives 0 support.

Really 0 support ? I know many grandparents who entirely took care of their grandkids for 2–3 years. So their kids can work.

Mind you, Not by living in the same city and helping. But taking care of grandkids in their own village / town.

You clearly have no idea of culture nor religion of the country.

[thewhitetulip]

I suppose you're one of them right wingers who live in an alternate reality

The thread in which you are commenting is about Indias crashing TFR

Urban India TFR is 1.6

Which means people aren't having kids. Gee if all grandparents are helping them why is TFR 1.6 hahaha

[trumpdong]

Did the drunk wife-beaters intend to be that way?

[thewhitetulip]

I think you're too idealistic (or of right wing ideology). The culture aka parents inlaws and random aubties and uncles pressurize Indian couples to have 1 kid then 2nd kid then 3rd kid

But neither of them come to help these days with childcare. Just for the photos and for lolz

Very few couples have kids of their own violitin

Not to mention some religious sects/cultures who look down upon contraceptives due to religious beliefs

So yeah, loads of parents become parents by accident and not by their own choice. (Not saying everyone is like this but a large number is like this)