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by flagsrule 1283 days ago
I think there is an emotional cost in receiving a work-related message that only says "hello".

My data point: it enrages everyone I know. And they lose respect for the person who said "hello" and wasted their time.
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treewalking 1283 days ago
I can’t conceive of working in an environment where coworkers are enraged by minor communication differences. Like wow you just work with a bunch of assholes.

Probably that’s the thing to solve for, not “hello”, “query” vs “hello, query”.

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geraldwhen 1283 days ago
No. It completely disrespects the recipients work and time by demanding a meeting with no agenda.

Everyone I work with feels the same. The “hello” people are the outliers and the rest of the office knows it.

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gyulai 1283 days ago
The hello people? rofl

...there must be some psychology student out there to whom this thread is an absolute gold mine for their Ph.D. thesis. ...or maybe a standup comedian.

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geraldwhen 1283 days ago
People are telling you that they find your behavior disruptive and rude, yet you continue to discredit their feelings.

You cannot control how a recipient receives your message.

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gyulai 1283 days ago
> You cannot control how a recipient receives your message.

My point exactly. Only problem: If A hurts B's feelings, that doesn't automatically mean B has the moral high ground and A is therefore in the wrong.

If B plays the "hurt feelings" card after A has done nothing to give offense other than start a conversation with "hello" in a text chat where they had no way of discerning B's emotional state, then that's the best example I've encountered yet, of a situation where A's hurt feelings clearly seem like A's problem.

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flagsrule 1283 days ago
The unspoken context is that this goes beyond saying "hello".

In my experience, hello people usually present with the following comorbidities:

- inability to learn and retain new information.

- inability to own their work and take responsibility from end-to-end.

- tendency to push their own work onto other people and become a victim when the other person doesn't do exactly what they want.

Maybe the psychology student you mentioned could look into this phenomenon for their thesis?

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