[treewalking]

I can’t conceive of working in an environment where coworkers are enraged by minor communication differences. Like wow you just work with a bunch of assholes.

Probably that’s the thing to solve for, not “hello”, “query” vs “hello, query”.

[geraldwhen]

No. It completely disrespects the recipients work and time by demanding a meeting with no agenda.

Everyone I work with feels the same. The “hello” people are the outliers and the rest of the office knows it.

[gyulai]

The hello people? rofl

...there must be some psychology student out there to whom this thread is an absolute gold mine for their Ph.D. thesis. ...or maybe a standup comedian.

[geraldwhen]

People are telling you that they find your behavior disruptive and rude, yet you continue to discredit their feelings.

You cannot control how a recipient receives your message.

[gyulai]

> You cannot control how a recipient receives your message.

My point exactly. Only problem: If A hurts B's feelings, that doesn't automatically mean B has the moral high ground and A is therefore in the wrong.

If B plays the "hurt feelings" card after A has done nothing to give offense other than start a conversation with "hello" in a text chat where they had no way of discerning B's emotional state, then that's the best example I've encountered yet, of a situation where A's hurt feelings clearly seem like A's problem.

[flagsrule]

The unspoken context is that this goes beyond saying "hello".

In my experience, hello people usually present with the following comorbidities:

- inability to learn and retain new information.

- inability to own their work and take responsibility from end-to-end.

- tendency to push their own work onto other people and become a victim when the other person doesn't do exactly what they want.

Maybe the psychology student you mentioned could look into this phenomenon for their thesis?

[gyulai]

...wow, and you got all of that from "hello".