The biggest issue I had with female colleagues is not that they were worse than males in any way, but comment like yours. In fact I think on average females are better for the team. I remember I told once told few folks that one female member of the team is bad hire, and the immediate response I got was that I am saying this because she is a female. I might have a bias that I don't know about, but if someone specifically points a single or minority of females to be bad doesn't need to prove they are not sexist.
I think that’s because some women emulate part of what they view as male leadership (aggressive), without also having other aspects of male leaders.
I had a leader who thought it was acceptable to say things like, “hey losers let’s get this work done” through email from her office, trying to emulate a male leader who would say, “hey losers let’s get this work done” and then help physically do the work.
This is because historically aggressiveness is a male attribute, so when it is present in women it stands out and the perception is amplified. It is the same when a woman is as tall as a man, for example.
It does seem like things are getting better, but certainly when I was growing up almost any behavior the slightest bit feminine in a male was called out as “gay”. The phrases “act like a man” or “real man” are often not just valorizing masculine traits but admonishing feminine ones. So, I’d say very yes.
Yes - you can look at the long history of feminine men getting bullied, no matter their age. Or the decision for eyeliner-wearing men to not wear it to work. (My spouse carried a polka-dot bag that I bought for a while: He, a man in his 40's, found that coworkers laughed. For a while afterwards, he carried it out of spite).