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by mod 4171 days ago
People are certainly "out of each other's league," at least in the sense that some people do not measure up to others' desires.

Of course, you can't really know what their qualifications are. Only they know, and they're going to run deeper than first impressions. So no, they're not out of your league yet!
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balabaster 4171 days ago
Yes, but the whole concept of being out of someone's league has the underlying implication that the person you're considering is better than you somehow.

Just because they're not your cup of tea, or vice versa doesn't make them out of your league, they just make that person different than you. People are people, we all eat, drink, shit and do what we have to do to survive. Even the most "successful" CEO, the Queen of England and the person living on the street has the same basic needs. Everything else is a by-product of our circumstance and the way we choose to live our lives.

Anyway, we're getting off-topic ;)

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mod 4171 days ago
You're digging at that "everyone is unique" vibe, or "everybody wins." I don't really think it's relevant.

I think when people say that, it's typically along the lines of "that person is very [attractive|smart|rich|combo] and could have any of millions of partners at will. I'm unremarkable in all [perceivable|probably-important-to-them] ways, so it's an extreme longshot to pursue them."

Doesn't mean they're not wrong. Everyone has a chance, sure--Beauty and the Beast, right? But they might want to optimize for "people in their league," especially if the fear of rejection is in them like the guy in OP.

...back on topic!

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wtbob 4171 days ago
> But they might want to optimize for "people in their league," especially if the fear of rejection is in them like the guy in OP.

I think folks should try not to worry about that too much: http://imgur.com/gallery/eo5oq

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balabaster 4171 days ago
I agree. Optimize for what's important to you, nothing more. Eventually you'll find someone that's got everything that's important to you, where you have everything that's important to them...

The real trick is to optimize what's important to you and realize that most of the stuff that society/the media would have you think is important is really just meaningless shit. What matters is your connection with each other, do you have complementary perspectives, goals, motivations, desires and dreams? Do you make each other laugh? Do you enjoy each others company? The rest is just superficial nonsense.

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