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by wtbob 4171 days ago
> But they might want to optimize for "people in their league," especially if the fear of rejection is in them like the guy in OP.

I think folks should try not to worry about that too much: http://imgur.com/gallery/eo5oq

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I agree. Optimize for what's important to you, nothing more. Eventually you'll find someone that's got everything that's important to you, where you have everything that's important to them...

The real trick is to optimize what's important to you and realize that most of the stuff that society/the media would have you think is important is really just meaningless shit. What matters is your connection with each other, do you have complementary perspectives, goals, motivations, desires and dreams? Do you make each other laugh? Do you enjoy each others company? The rest is just superficial nonsense.