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by lnanek2 4435 days ago
I don't really understand why she didn't take the guy up on his offer to resign. She did seem incapable of working with him or at his incubator after that. It was a good offer on his part, especially considering they didn't even have sex, just sleeping together on the same couch and him touching her breasts.

I don't think that result was even strange. They were both very drunk, staying the same place, she didn't go back to her room at the end, and she told the similarly drunk guy she was cold - a standard hookup line to initiate hugging, which is all that happened.

I've gotten clothed hugs from friends regularly who would never sleep with me. I've gotten hands under clothes both other people's under mine touching genitals and mine under theirs in bars and at pools and beaches and the like with people I had only met that one time. I think it is wrong that it happened in this case where she didn't want it, but it just doesn't seem the world ending thing to me like she treated it.

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> she told the similarly drunk guy she was cold - a standard hookup line to initiate hugging, which is all that happened

"I woke up with my pants undone and down (but not completely removed). My top and bra around my neck, and to my horror, Matt behind me. Holding me."

Sure doesn't sound like just hugging. Also her post doesn't say she simply told the guy she was cold, it says she directly asked him to turn on the heater. Either way, what's said to have happened next would be a very clear indication that she didn't mean anything romantic of it:

"I got stronger and stronger – ending in forcibly pushing him away"

>> but it just doesn't seem the world ending thing to me like she treated it.

It's comments like this that make sexual assault seem acceptable.

Comparing this story to "clothed hugs from friends" sounds like we did not read the same post.

I feel she was well within her right to feel like the world is ending - and unwanted sexual assault is never o.k from anyone - let alone people in a position of power (such as running a startup accelerator).