[waveman2]

According to the author she did nothing about the problem at the time ie did not talk to the teacher, but is now more than happy to create drama by the track.

The author's qualifications in teaching appears to be zero, and her qualifications in programming seem to be that she is a tech journalist and author of a work of fiction. Why should the teacher have any notice of her?

The extent of the problem is that some people said things like "go make me a sammich" etc to her daughter. I would suggest that this is actually not a huge problem. I recall my days in high school, when I was beaten up on a regular basis for the sin of being good at Math and Science. I mean hard punches to the head and body, possessions destroyed, etc. I spite of my complaints to parents and teachers alike, nothing was done until I managed to create some bad publicity for the school. But it seems it only hatters if it happens to a girl (TM).

Bear in mind also that the salary of the teacher is probably around 60% of the salary that a production programmer can earn. So unless the teacher is a very idealistic soul, it is likely the teacher is struggling and knows little about programming. Which makes the teacher's job all the more difficult.

Finally, there is no proof any of this actually happened. Given past feminist false claims, it is quite on the cards that it didn't happen or is exaggerated... particularly given the acknowledgement that she did nothing about the problem when it counted.

[tptacek]

You were bullied viciously in high school, and the perverse result appears to be that you've become in adulthood a defender of bullying.

[waveman2]

No I am saying that trivia is trivia. What happened is at worst micro-bullying.

Actually I suspect the daughter did not want to do the course, was pressured into it by her mother and pickup on on this minor incident as an excuse to stop the course.

[tptacek]

Notice how nobody is questioning your experience of bullying, but you're casually questioning someone else's? Like I said: perverse.

[Dylan16807]

It's not 'perverse' to have different standards on what qualifies as punishable bullying. You're using some kind of false equivalence here. Yes, both an insult and a beating qualify as 'bullying', but that does not mean we should categorize them similarly.

[cnp]

Given how common such bullying is, particularly in relation to such a male dominated field (and class), you are absolutely wrong. And having a group gang up on you is anything but "micro-bullying".

[PakG1]

It's quite possible, many parents drive their kids up the wall to get them to achieve things or worse, want to live vicariously through their kids.

But such speculation is not valuable unless there is evidence to support it.

[leephillips]

I think you skimmed the article too fast. Try reading most of the words.

[acjohnson55]

"I spite of my complaints to parents and teachers alike, nothing was done until I managed to create some bad publicity for the school."

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"Finally, there is no proof any of this actually happened. Given past feminist false claims, it is quite on the cards that it didn't happen or is exaggerated... particularly given the acknowledgement that she did nothing about the problem when it counted."

I truly feel for your experience, but it's sad that you can't empathize with analogous situations other people are going through. Creating bad publicity to draw attention to the situation is exactly what this mother is doing, since nothing was done about it going through private channels.

[yeukhon]

I wouldn't really want to get into speculating the teacher. But we do have to be conservative on this topic. There are two cases:

1. the daughter had hidden her saddness really really well when she was in her classroom (she still get A, ask why? she probably did all her homework and got 100s on her tests) 2. the daughter did show her sad face but the teacher did not catch it.

OP doesn't even address all these problems. She didn't talk to the teacher. So maybe we should just say both have problem. If #1 was true, then the mother is the real blame here. She takes the full blame.