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by troutwine 4908 days ago
> I am addicted to porn. ... I would look about once per week...

I don't understand: this seems incongruous. Watching pornography once a week doesn't come across as an uncontrolled, impulse behaviour. How does one suffer from an addiction and satisfy it but once a week?

Do forgive me if I come across as doubting your word. That is not my intention in the least.

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He said he enjoyed it a lot when he did it, therefore it's an addiction.

This is America: if you like something, it's probably bad for you.

(Less sarcastically: I remember reading that addicts don't enjoy their addiction anymore; they do it because they have to keep doing it. Kind of like me and "someone is wrong on the Internet".)

That is not what I meant. I am not against porn. If it is good for you then that is fine. It is not good for me and just because you may not have a problem with something doesn't mean other people do not. I have no problem drinking a beer but I understand that some people do have a problem drinking.

> I remember reading that addicts don't enjoy their addiction anymore; they do it because they have to keep doing it.

Yes, I can relate to this. At the beginning it may not have been an addiction but it did morph into one over several years.

Ah...

> I am addicted to porn. ... I would look about once per week...

Might as well have said:

> I am addicted to heroin. ... I would shoot up about once per week...

I guess the point is simply that you did something that harmed your life, but you couldn't stop, eh?

It's strange that the word "addict" conjured up so many images of drugs and alcohol that I unconsciously threw the proper definition of the term right out the window.

>He said he enjoyed it a lot when he did it, therefore it's an addiction.

hmmmm no. It is an addiction if you cannot do WITHOUT it and you cannot stop doing/taking it; and you feel terrible one way or the other without it and the only release is having/taking it. And when you start typical toxic behaviors like making excuses "one last time" and the likes.

Just because you enjoy something a lot doesn't make it an addiction. From all mattm said, he probably isn't addicted but put the label "addiction" on some other thing he is suffering from.

Your sarcasm detector had just had a glitch.
Years ago I read the Allen Carr "Easy way to give up smoking" book and managed to change from having 30/day to 3 on a Sunday evening in the pub.

But if I didn't get to the pub on Sunday evening it ate me up inside - I NEEDED those 3 cigarettes and I couldn't cope without them.

It wasn't the quantity, it was how I dealt with being denied that was the issue.

I responded to the same question above.