[enragebait]

Your difficulty may be rooted in psychology.

Many do not like discussing “psychological temperaments” because they are not “scientific enough”, though you yourself are of a culture who can recognize that even science does not adequately explain everything.

By standards of psychological temperament, it would seem that your father was “introspective” and you are “extrospective”. In brief, those who are “introspective” live life referring to a map within themselves, and those who are extrospective look to external signs for their bearings. As we are social creatures, it is not unusual for ourselves (and our families) to have mixtures of psychological temperaments as they complement and cover for one and other.

You should not be too worried about getting the right technology or specific focus. You should worry about being competent and diligent. Keep yourself organized, follow through, don’t give up even if you aren’t sure. Especially if you aren’t sure. Check the market, look for the statistical average and also the leading edge. Focusing on the average is job security, focusing on the edge is a bit more exciting and specialized, if you are an overachiever. If you’re not an overachiever don’t try to be! You will likely only be discouraged and fail.

I suspect electrical engineering will be much more in wide demand in the future than computer engineering. You could focus on something combining both, like telecommunications or satellite or data centers infrastructure as these are combined disciplines which are growing in demand.

Being thorough, well organized, and driven to completion will be the successful trait no matter what you do. FOMO is a trap for young minds. Competence and capable will be the most desired skill whichever technology used.

Good luck!

[c4kar]

Then how can i be sure if i am working on the right sector ? How can i be sure that i am competent and capable at the right job ??

[enragebait]

Every sector will have its advantages and disadvantages. You must find the one that is right for you.

You will not overcome this with everything buzzing in your mind. Take every opportunity to unplug, self isolate, and ground yourself in silence. Breath. Let the anxiety evaporate from you, at least for those moments. Nothingness is your friend, your closest intimate companion. It is a challenging skill which must be practiced.

I don’t know your environment, I like to take long walks. Sometimes loosing myself in exercise. Sure I sometimes “meditate” only that is the opposite of how it sounds.

Competence and capability are like good hygiene. You have a little nagging voice inside you that says keep the lines neat, tie up the ends, clean up afterwards, and then the loud pressing urge to just get the job done, do only what is required, and react to a million things confronting you.

In every situation endure without complaint, giving more than was asked, seeing through the finer details even when not explicitly demanded of you will transform you into a respected person of capacity.

It is always harder in the beginning, your investments will pay off. When I was just getting started I used to say motivational things to myself like “form, focus, patience” or “integrity, principle, devotion”. Some mantra that suits you may drown out the self doubt and leave your attention for your personal growth!