[darkwater]

You start worrying when they are in the womb... and never really stop worrying til you die.

[w0m]

I had no idea I would turn into a helicopter. it's kind of crazy how it rewires you.

[darkwater]

Being an helicopter has a specific (and negative) meaning; caring and worrying for your kids seems just how many humans are wired.

[MattGrommes]

The real difficulty is deciding what caring means. Some people decide caring means getting onto your adult child's job interview call because you think they need help. For others, caring means giving them a safety net but letting them learn and possibly fail on their own.

[darkwater]

I might be opinionated but the former clearly feels/is a problematic and unhealthy behavior. The latter is much more reasonable.

[w0m]

I ~never liked kids. I debated having them, then kind of settled on it (was planned). I expected to be be present but... aloof? Like my dad was.

Instead, I have buddies. I wouldn't call it unhealthy, just much more invested than I expected to be.