[darkwater]

I might be opinionated but the former clearly feels/is a problematic and unhealthy behavior. The latter is much more reasonable.

[w0m]

I ~never liked kids. I debated having them, then kind of settled on it (was planned). I expected to be be present but... aloof? Like my dad was.

Instead, I have buddies. I wouldn't call it unhealthy, just much more invested than I expected to be.