[alt227]

Its always frustrating when people describe a tech issue, and the response to that is not to discuss the issue itself, but just point out ways in which the person reply doesn't agree with what they are assuming is the original posters lifestyle choices.

Why waste time and effort just picking apart what someone else does with their free time? I can only assume becasue they disagree with the issues relevance, but that only goes to show the intent of the person replying. They dont care about the tech issue and just want to show why they think they are better than the person with the problem.

Human condition i guess!

[Planktonne]

Tech issues don't exist in a vacuum; the idea that tech--a thing we use to enhance our lives, in a discussion literally about doing that--can only be considered from a purely mechanical standpoint is a thought-terminating cliché at this point.

Considering the uses and impact of tech is part of talking about it; you can't limit discussion just to the wires.

[macintux]

> It's a use-case that is either inefficient or inhuman, and I find it really odd that it's one that you value.

You could have simply asked without denigrating the commenter.

[Planktonne]

I don't read my comment as denigrating; discussions will naturally involve disagreements.

I do think that the sententious tone-policing of yours and other comments is injurious to discussion.

[abustamam]

There's a difference between a simple disagreement and a judgment on a person's use of technology based on a rather mundane task.

> That's even weirder though, because you're taking what should be a moment of connection/care and trying to automate it.

"weirder" has a pretty negative connotation, hard not to see its usage as denigrating.

"what should be a moment or connection" is an assumption on what the moment actually is. All OP mentioned is that they want to turn off one light in one bedroom. Your comment invented a narrative about what that must mean and then made statements on the narrative that exists only in your mind.

I don't think anyone is trying to "tone-police" you I think people just disagree with your take.

[Planktonne]

You're literally focused on tone, critiquing connotations rather than substance.

It's difficult to have a discussion if a bunch of unrelated people jump in not to add but to quibble about phrasing. If you don't want to discuss anything, just don't involve yourself.

[abustamam]

Words matter. You can't use words and then complain when people call you out on your usage of words.