[abustamam]

There's a difference between a simple disagreement and a judgment on a person's use of technology based on a rather mundane task.

> That's even weirder though, because you're taking what should be a moment of connection/care and trying to automate it.

"weirder" has a pretty negative connotation, hard not to see its usage as denigrating.

"what should be a moment or connection" is an assumption on what the moment actually is. All OP mentioned is that they want to turn off one light in one bedroom. Your comment invented a narrative about what that must mean and then made statements on the narrative that exists only in your mind.

I don't think anyone is trying to "tone-police" you I think people just disagree with your take.

[Planktonne]

You're literally focused on tone, critiquing connotations rather than substance.

It's difficult to have a discussion if a bunch of unrelated people jump in not to add but to quibble about phrasing. If you don't want to discuss anything, just don't involve yourself.

[abustamam]

Words matter. You can't use words and then complain when people call you out on your usage of words.