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by nlawalker 33 days ago
You have to call it out when you see it, politely and charitably.

"Hey, thanks! This is a great overview, and I actually asked ChatGPT before asking here and got a lot of the same information, but what I'm really looking for is..."

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This is what I do, slightly more explicitly saying “just be the real you”. About 50% of colleagues take it well. The other 50% don’t understand the problem, and don’t understand when (and when not) to use AI.

They are at high risk.

Employees using ChatGPT to renegotiate their salary are showing a serious lack of cognitive awareness.

I like this. I thought to iterate on it a bit, for the folk who respond better to higher-tact phrasing:

"Thanks. I have access to ChatGPT as well. But I ask people for help when it fails. Your thoughts are smarter than GPT's, please provide those, next time."

Though, I'd like to be more succinct/terse.

"If I wanted to receive copy paste from a bot I wouldn't message you, why are you trying to sneak this in?"

You reminded me of American colleagues that lie and say things are good when they are bad lol. Unable to be straight to the point. You're upset at the waste of time yet you thank them?

Just curious: would you consider yourself autistic?
No, perhaps continental European. When I moved to Britain I had some adjusting period at work because English-speaking countries are terrified of disagreement and confrontation, and I am not used to dancing around the point, especially in stressful settings where efficiency is key. Mind you, I was always polite and respectful to anybody.

I got better at it, but I can’t say I ever got to like the pervasive hypocrisy. To my understanding the American/West Coast is even more fake on this aspect.

No, just like to work with eastern Europeans and got used to their communication. Now this stuff just jumps out at me.
Not everyone not conforming to your preferred style of communication is autistic. What is up with the internet trying to diagnose people?!

The parent is right. The reason society as a whole is way too comfortable with overstepping social boundaries, is because people think it’s somehow rude to confront others. It makes no sense. Sometimes you gotta say it how it is, because quite frankly the real rude person is the one copy and pasting a ton of AI output into your communication so you have to parse that and then try and figure out the original intent between the lines. How is that acceptable but saying “don’t do that to me?” is not?

Is that a tell? Sounds very much like my reaction to that behavior, but I always assumed it's because I'm german.
Perhaps a quick visit to https://german.millermanschool.com could sort this out
Funny! I'm autistic enough that I went to do it and got 51% German and 27% autistic. In reality am portuguese and never diagnosed (outside of internet comment sections).