[Daviey]

Reluctantly, the dev seems to have a stinky attitude.

He went on an "OSS vacation", which is perfectly reasonable and said he'd be back on a certain date. I had a PR open for a trivial fix, someone asked when it would land. I shared he was still away. After his return I politely asked, "@badlogic hey, what can we do to progress this? Thanks x"

I then got what I would consider an abusive reply, because he confused me with someone else. In the meantime he extended his vacation. Didn't even think his shitty attitude was worthy of an apology, that HE confused me with someone else.

https://github.com/badlogic/pi-mono/discussions/1475#discuss...

And another other thing I fixed with no attribution, just landed it himself separately. https://github.com/badlogic/pi-mono/discussions/1080

and

https://github.com/badlogic/pi-mono/issues/1079#event-223896...

Now he's seemingly marked anything with my name on as a "clanker", despite all my changes being by hand.

I've been around open source enough to have a thick skin, but when i'm doing something "for fun" and someone treats you like that, i'd rather avoid it as far as possible. I certainly could not in good faith use this project for anything work related.

[embedding-shape]

> Honestly, it seems you are grumpy, so it was probably a good idea to extend that vacation. Being rude just creates a more toxic environment for everyone. Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer? Thanks

Honestly, it seems like both of you were feeling a bit "grumpy" at the moment, but sending passive aggressiveness towards the maintainer you are trying to get to merge your code (or not your code, someone else's code?) seems like a very bold strategy regardless.

[Daviey]

You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

But that doesn't negate the maintainer talking to people like that (and taking contributions without attribution).. and the net result is I don't want to use the software, and frankly they probably won't miss me.. so the end result is neutral.. I just find it sad.

[raincole]

> Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer?

Quite sure most (perhaps >99%) adult people would consider this passive aggressive.

But yeah, I agree with you for the rest part. Why did Mario assume that bot is you...?

[ZeWaka]

if a human showed up directly under some bot bullshit pinging me I'd assume they were the bot operator as well

[sodacanner]

I'm not sure how you'd be able to interpret that as anything other than passive aggressive.

[brazukadev]

> You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

That's a great opportunity for self reflection.

[Daviey]

Yeah, I take that. I've thought about it much of this evening.

I think at the time I was frustrated, it felt unfair and I couldn't understand it.

Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

But that is where I should have stopped. The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive. I am owning that.

[brazukadev]

> Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

The thought was correct, he was probably stressed. You made it worse.

> The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive

The way you expressed is a technicality, what counts here was your action.

Open source developers owe you nothing, you can always fork and implement your feature by yourself.

Behaving the way you did, treating it as something about you, is very selfish.

[Daviey]

I've acknowledged everything you've said previously. Now why do you feel the need to continue it?

But I will add, they may have had a bad day, but that doesn't give the maintainer the freedom to be rude to others.

The fact is, I was polite, maintainer was rude, and I reacted badly to it and was worse.

But as you say, my choice was to not be further interested in the project... Which is what I said earlier.

[crashprone]

You seem to have posted your polite question as a reply to the bot comment which talks about PR #1484 and not your PR. I'd say it's pretty obvious why the maintainer thought you were pushing the bot's PR.

As someone else pointed out cooler heads and less passive aggressive responses would've resolved this issue easily.

[NwtnsMthd]

But hey, the dev was generous to give it an MIT license, you could always just fork it and what you like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯