[embedding-shape]

> Honestly, it seems you are grumpy, so it was probably a good idea to extend that vacation. Being rude just creates a more toxic environment for everyone. Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer? Thanks

Honestly, it seems like both of you were feeling a bit "grumpy" at the moment, but sending passive aggressiveness towards the maintainer you are trying to get to merge your code (or not your code, someone else's code?) seems like a very bold strategy regardless.

[Daviey]

You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

But that doesn't negate the maintainer talking to people like that (and taking contributions without attribution).. and the net result is I don't want to use the software, and frankly they probably won't miss me.. so the end result is neutral.. I just find it sad.

[raincole]

> Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer?

Quite sure most (perhaps >99%) adult people would consider this passive aggressive.

But yeah, I agree with you for the rest part. Why did Mario assume that bot is you...?

[ZeWaka]

if a human showed up directly under some bot bullshit pinging me I'd assume they were the bot operator as well

[sodacanner]

I'm not sure how you'd be able to interpret that as anything other than passive aggressive.

[brazukadev]

> You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

That's a great opportunity for self reflection.

[Daviey]

Yeah, I take that. I've thought about it much of this evening.

I think at the time I was frustrated, it felt unfair and I couldn't understand it.

Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

But that is where I should have stopped. The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive. I am owning that.

[brazukadev]

> Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

The thought was correct, he was probably stressed. You made it worse.

> The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive

The way you expressed is a technicality, what counts here was your action.

Open source developers owe you nothing, you can always fork and implement your feature by yourself.

Behaving the way you did, treating it as something about you, is very selfish.

[Daviey]

I've acknowledged everything you've said previously. Now why do you feel the need to continue it?

But I will add, they may have had a bad day, but that doesn't give the maintainer the freedom to be rude to others.

The fact is, I was polite, maintainer was rude, and I reacted badly to it and was worse.

But as you say, my choice was to not be further interested in the project... Which is what I said earlier.