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That’s a great point — confidence definitely helps in the long term, and I agree that “nobody really cares” is often the truth. But in the moment, it’s interesting how many of us still reach for a hack (post-it notes, fake calls, excuses). What I’m curious about is whether a tool that makes those “outs” easier/less awkward could actually reduce stress for people who struggle in the moment. Almost like training wheels for confidence. Your story about holding up a “Call Me” note actually makes me think this instinct has always been there — we’re just modernizing it.

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My daughter has a psychology degree, and always recommends a therapist. So I won't speculate on how to gain self-confidence, or the value of gadgets to help in the near term. It does take time.

The office gag wasn't social. It was just fatigue. I guess there always were and will be situations where we need an exit. FWIW, I am retired and living alone in the boondocks, and have too few interactions, so consider the value of just being in the people world. I plan to move, to be closer to family and friends. Most are over 50 miles away. I might run into one of those hasty exits. Right now, my excuse would be "I have a long drive (I do) and want to get home before dark"

Of course, I've had many years to make excuses, most of which were/are valid. Oops, I've got to go to the pharmacy/hardware store before it closes!

Good luck.