[gexla]

She is your girlfriend? Or you just started dating her? Which is it? ;)

For all your dating questions, go search for "Doc Love" at Ask Men. He writes articles there and they are gold for dating advice. This man is a wizard. Don't take advice from anyone else. Thank me later.

Appearances are everything. Don't worry about being smart, rather, shoot for appearing smart.

One of the most powerful ways to appear smart is to be able to communicate well with good grammar and writing. I see that you could use a lot of improvement in those areas, so that's where I would start.

Learn the difference between the usage of "affect" and "effect" (don't let your bad grammar _affect_ your self esteem. ) Learn the difference between the usage of "who" and "that" (the girl _who_ you are dating is better than the girl _that_ your friend is dating.)

http://english.stackexchange.com/questions/11204/how-to-use-...

Go look at just about any list of "top ten skills" and communication and good writing skills are probably on that list.

Do a search for grammar resources and spend time each day reading through these resources. Also spend time writing every day.

Good luck!

[UnoriginalGuy]

You cannot be serious about the "Doc Love" dude on Ask Men? That guy just repeats generic platitudes and repeats nonsense from various dating books. I'm fairly sure he is who the "Barney" character on How I Met Your Mother is based.

Reading that site was fun when I was a young guy but as you grow older it becomes very apparent that it is just the blind leading the blind. The entire site is just a giant advertising board pretending to be a magazine.

Purely in terms of dating advice I actually find female commentators better simply because their readership expects more.

[gexla]

I disagree, but you didn't give me enough to argue against. However, I stopped reading his articles years ago. Maybe his articles have gone downhill since I last visited the site.

[jamesjguthrie]

> (the girl _who_ you are dating is better than the girl _that_ your friend is dating.)

Shouldn't that be "the girl whom you are dating?"

[gexla]

You are correct. I'm no grammarian, but I believe I do relatively well and I don't think anyone would dispute my advice on learning to write well.

However, the rules of grammar change over time. Usage of who versus whom is a case which could go either way. There is the proper usage and then there is the popular usage. I hardly ever hear the word "whom" being used and I don't use the word because I feel weird saying it. The fewer people using that word, the less important it becomes as a rule of grammar.

[jamesjguthrie]

I'm kinda the same. I don't really speak the word but I will write it if I'm writing a formal report/essay etc.

[DrorY]

heh, thanks for the grammar corrections. I fear I am not a native English speaker though. In my mother tongue I write better (I so as hell hope so anyways).