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by jamesjguthrie 5025 days ago
> (the girl _who_ you are dating is better than the girl _that_ your friend is dating.)

Shouldn't that be "the girl whom you are dating?"

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You are correct. I'm no grammarian, but I believe I do relatively well and I don't think anyone would dispute my advice on learning to write well.

However, the rules of grammar change over time. Usage of who versus whom is a case which could go either way. There is the proper usage and then there is the popular usage. I hardly ever hear the word "whom" being used and I don't use the word because I feel weird saying it. The fewer people using that word, the less important it becomes as a rule of grammar.

I'm kinda the same. I don't really speak the word but I will write it if I'm writing a formal report/essay etc.