| Doctors are trained to be arrogant, dismissive of unknown unknowns, and with a terrible understanding of statistics. Add to that: - They have a lot of patients and not enough sleep.
- They need to pay back a huge student loan.
- They hold terrible responsibilities and risk being sued.
- They don't have much time for themselves, let alone update their knowledge.
- Most patients are overreacting idiots, so it's a winning strategy to ignore what they tell you most of the time.
- They are not trained nor selected for empathy or open-mindedness.
And you get so many medical errors.Basically, you have to double-check everything they do, and endure their cynical rebuttal when you make suggestions, ask questions or try things they didn't request. I had to face many such errors myself, two almost lethal. When you can, shop for one that is both good and is open to discussion. But even then, there is a limit. At some point, your doctor WILL fail you, so you have to take responsibility, usually when you're weak and at a low point in your life. And if you are wrong, people will tell you you should have listened to your doctor, but if the doctor is wrong, well, shit happens. One of my practitioners is a friend of 15 years, I literally lived with him, he is considered top in his specialty. I'm surrounded by people working at the hospital. He saved my life once. Even that is not enough. I still have to double check stuff every time. |
The two times I've been hospitalized in my adult life, I've been incredibly thankful for my parents stepping in to act as my patient advocates, including pushing back on doctors when necessary. (The first hospitalization was guilliane-barre and the other a rare hemotological condition, so i wasn't in a great place in either scenario to advocate for myself).
A pediatrician in my family has said that patients get significantly better outcomes when they have a patient advocate, because even if they are directly related to you (i.e. parents or sibling), they are going to be far better at being objective on the situation than you, the person being affected by it, is