[watwut]

It was my long term observation - the buffed guys in movies and video games are for other men to look at and admire. They are in games and movies targeted at men. Movies targeted at women have different male physicality.

Gym is something men do to compete with other men and look good to other men. It has zero to do with what women like.

But when I wrote that in comments, invariably, men felt offended and angry.

[viraptor]

> Gym is something men do to compete with other men

That's a massive overgeneralisation. Gym is not just for looks. Based on local gym, it's not even the main purpose. There's lots of people using it for maintaining basic fitness.

I'm writing it here, because when I was growing up, many people genuinely had the idea that you start going to the gym to become a bodybuilder. In case anyone needs to hear it - no - feel free to go to just be more healthy.

[watwut]

People to want to maintain basic fitness wont prioritize muscle growth over everything. Even more importantly, they will do sports that are not "the gym" - cycling, soccer, running, basketball, climbing and what not.

Gym culture is heavily biased toward something else. And when you look at advice about training guys are getting and seeking, it is all about muscles growth. Nothing about being faster, healthier, have balanced performance ... no other goal is as discussed as muscle growth.

[viraptor]

Maybe that's regional or specific to some chains, but not universal. About half the people in my gym come in only for cardio machines. The PTs start with - "so what do you want to achieve?". As for sports you listed, soccer and basketball rely on available groups - it's not for everyone; climbing depends on available walls which only exist in larger towns and cities (1.5h to my closest one); running/cycling depends on various conditions, so many people do that... at the gym.

[ZeroGravitas]

I was looking into advice on lifting weights not that long ago and this was very noticeable to me.

The stuff you find online didn't even allow for the possibility that there were other goals even as they discussed the risk of life changing injuries from certain practices.

It was just "will this grow muscle size more and faster" when I was looking for some science backed answers on what was the minimum time/money/risk way to be healthy and active in the long term.

One person who stuck out for going against this was an expert in back jnjuries asking older weightlifters "Do you want to keep setting personal bests or do you want to be able to play on the floor with your grandchildren as you can't do both"

[xenospn]

If you’re commenting on hacker news, you definitely need to go to the gym on a regular basis. Has nothing to do with looks and everything to do with your physical and mental health.

[znpy]

> Gym is something men do to compete with other men and look good to other men. It has zero to do with what women like.

This is nonsense. Most men do gym because they want to look a certain way (leaner and in some cases more muscular). It's largely unrelated to what women want.

> But when I wrote that in comments, invariably, men felt offended and angry.

Rightfully so. It's a gross generalization (and oversimplification).

[watwut]

It is gross generalization to say that super buffed is not general female preference? That media targetted at women do not contain such guys, but media targetted at men do?

I suggest you look at those media. Big muscles are what men like men to have.

[IAmBroom]

Citation required.

Men do gym for various reasons.