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by rickydroll 528 days ago
All your points are examples of luck compounded over time.

Let's take your example of not being born in a hut in Tanzania. That bit of luck is called the birth lottery and has a major influence on one's life. It defines the resources you have growing up, including school systems, community, and medical care. Then, it extends into networks known by your parents, influencing where you get into college/university and where you start working.

We can't control events to guarantee the right outcome. The best we can do is load the metaphorical dice. For example, you increase your chances of finding a life partner through good hygiene, mental health, social skills, etc.

My meeting with my current partner is one of those luck stories. If I hadn't gone to that dating meetup, if I hadn't gotten the card for "German dungeon porn" in a Cards Against Humanity game, if there wasn't performative shock by all the pearl clutchers at the table, I probably wouldn't have said, “It's hard to be shocked by much after you discover your father is a cross-dresser.”

That one statement taught my partner a lot about me (filtering skills, lack of pretense, humor, and confidence) and made me desirable in her eyes, setting another luck chain in motion.

In my opinion, it was 80% luck and 20% skill.

I'm not sure you can take pride in many things that have happened to you or outcomes you think you achieved because they are most likely luck. Whenever I discuss life and luck, I'm reminded of two phrases that sum it up beautifully: “There but for the grace of God go I.” and “If you want to make the gods laugh, tell them your plans.”

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This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain

That's not luck. See my reply to the other guy.

You are your parents' son. Unless your parents are Tanzanian hut-dwellers, there was no chance of that occurring.

I suggest spending more time reading up on the impact of the birth lottery.

the OP didn't choose to be born to Canadian parents any more than the that a child chose to be born to Tanzanian parents. In either case, the child's life trajectory has been significantly constrained by their parents' social standing, wealth and health.

https://www.technologyreview.com/2018/03/01/144958/if-youre-...

No amount of reading is going to make this possible. It's not chance. It's not a lottery.

The foal doesn't choose to be born to a mare any more than a lamb to a ewe.

That's the whole point. You have no agency over who your parents are or who the child is. When there is no ability to choose and no agency, what you get is a matter of luck.