[wruza]

I’d like to read on actual techniques, cause this post makes me suspicious. That question “how do I feel about it” is only a first step in a complex approach and the focus on it may suggest that there’s something missing in my picture. Which is lots of circumstantial techniques and ideas. I wouldn’t think of pointing this particular question out from all that if I was writing a blog post. Maybe I’m just different?

Anyway, I agree when they say that people who need therapy the most are the ones who cannot afford it. It makes you think different, not just pat you on the head and commiserate.

[throw76746]

> That question “how do I feel about it” is only a first step in a complex approach

On the other hand this is where therapy starts and ends. Ultimately a therapy is started because the answer to it is too negative. And if it's positive enough afterwards, it means the therapy was successful.

Or to put it the other way, there are issues where a Psychological tag can be put upon. After all the classification is largely a statistical one. But no therapy may be needed when the person is doing well.

Obviously things are more complex but from someone seeking Psychotherapy this is what it boils down to. Granted, some problems cannot be solved by Psychotherapy but that's a different topic.

Also I think it's worth mentioning that many people cannot even answer this simple question. No expert on this, but my presumption is also that through expectations e.g. in society and the career objective points are more in focus and not so much how an individual feels about it.

[whitefang]

I have some techniques that I use for coping. I also have ADHD so there are other overlapping challenges too.

Though I was not sure about sharing them and more importantly I still have to clearly identify them and list them out to be able to share.

It would be a good exercise and I will try to do that. Thanks for the idea.

[m463]

I suspect that's the question the therapist asked to get things going.

I agree with you, I'm pretty sure after that there are things that were explored and not explored that maybe are hidden from view.

A good friend of mine is very good exploring things with "why is that?" or "give me an example" but they are just tools.

[whitefang]

Yes it indeed was the question asked by the Therapist and that made me realize I've not been asking that often to myself. The question made me think and made me feel uncomfortable.

So now whenever I am in a tricky situtation, I ask myself that question. It gives me more understanding of my feeling.

And once I've more grasp on it, I can tackle it better.

[e40]

Some of the people who need it the most refuse to try it when it is offered.