[Puts]

Well I think there are a lot of people out there who define bullying as "when a random person in a group is selected to be harassed". And if you ask them what they think about it they would say "It's horrible and totally unacceptable".

But "disciplining" someone that is acting weird on the other hand is the right thing to do, that is not "bullying" to them. But for the person that becomes the subject of this it becomes, "you sit wrong", "you talk wrong", "you eat wrong", "your sense of humor is wrong" until it feels like you can't do anything right. Some people even think they can fix your "wrong" behavior by hitting you, and then it becomes physical bullying.

A lot of people wanna believe that bullying is like the fist scenario because that is easier than actually having to start accepting people the way they are - even if they are a little "weird".

[dijit]

I couldn't possibly disagree more.

Once you're boxed in as a bullied person, you will continue to be bullied.

They're not "educating" you, and it's a little sick to suggest it.

[Puts]

Have you ever met any person who says bullying is a good thing? I have not, yet it appears in any group of people large enough. So obviously people rationalise it somehow. How do you think they rationalise it to themself then?

Bullying is always wrong according to everyone, but that person being bullied is always the exception. “If they could just act in another way we wouldn’t be “forced” to do this to him/her.”

[amatecha]

The most-bullied kid I ever witnessed in my life was also the most annoying, he would act out and make annoying noises and say the dumbest, most irritating "jokes". I've never seen a kid get bullied so bad, people stole his backpack and peed in it, hung him on the gym changeroom clothing rack by his underwear (wedgie-style), all kinds of stuff. The kid's obnoxious nature was totally used as an excuse for the bullying he was subjected to, because basically "everyone" was annoyed by him and thus felt little sympathy for the persistent bullying he experienced.

In adult years I came across him on Facebook and he was wearing biker gang clothing/insignia. Of course the persistently exiled/bullied kid turns to organized crime later in life - the perfect system to exploit his endlessly-neglected need for inclusion and protection.

[lostlogin]

Here in New Zealand there used to be state care for various children. They ended up in ‘care’ for various reasons. However, for way too many it was basically just state sanctioned sadistic torture. Every sort of abuse you can name.

The number of survivors that ended up in gangs is significant. It’s an utterly shameful part of New Zealand history.

https://www.1news.co.nz/2024/07/25/state-care-has-key-role-i...

https://www.abuseincare.org.nz/about-us/news/gangs-first-eve...

[77pt77]

In Switzerland they just turned those children into slaves and sent them to be abused and worked to exhaustion in farms.

https://www.swissinfo.ch/eng/education/recognising-switzerla...

100K children, up to the 1980s, but who knows what's happening nowadays.

[rustcleaner]

And so now those kids as adults do kind-of deserved to be victimized by him and his gang. What goes around comes around.