[prehnra]

This is probably going to be hard to hear, but the reason why people say nice things in private but don't promote you in public is that there is no risk or cost in saying nice things, but if they endorse you then their reputations are tied to yours. Or it might even be a level of effort thing (short encouraging messages are easy, promotion is harder).

Also, I assume we are hearing frustration in your post, but it comes across as entitlement and bad attitude. I hope you don't use this tone with the people you are asking to promote you.

Sorry, I know this is not a good situation for you. Good luck.

[Mz]

I don't feel entitled. If I felt entitled, I imagine I would not be in such a mess. But I have helped a lot of people over the years with very difficult problems. We are not friends. They get advice and move on. It is more like consulting, but I don't get paid. In some cases, lots of experts already failed them. So I improve their lives but I am apparently supposed to do that out of "love" or something, and somehow that translates to they are entitled to my help and owe me not a damn thing. That's part of why my finances are a mess.

I am good at solving hard problems. I like doing that. I think it makes the world a better place. But I need money. I can't keep doing it for free and I don't see any reason I should.

Thanks for replying.