| > Being explicitly upfront about your administrative weaknesses early in relationships This sounds like a Good Thing, and I'm sure for some people it's a good idea, but in my experience, frontloading this sort of stuff tends to backfire.
The problem is that most[0] people don't know how to deal with special needs[1] If you focus on the facts and "your administrative weaknesses" a lot of people just hear excuses and think you're incompetent. If you try to explain it as a medical thing first, you might get the "you don't look autistic" response -- they think you are putting yourself down -- but the response I've had even more often is "what does that mean?".
Now you have to work to convince them that you are a liability. A strange game. The only way to win is to not[2] play. [0] "most": a population large enough that you can't safely ignore their existence. Source? what I reckon. [1] I don't really like to use the phrase, but I mean the literal meaning of the words and also that's often how they see it. [2] not the only way to order words |
> This sounds like a Good Thing, and I'm sure for some people it's a good idea, but in my experience, frontloading this sort of stuff tends to backfire. The problem is that most[0] people don't know how to deal with special needs[1]
This won't count for relationships you can't choose (like in an office) but I don't think I'm an outlier my those around me, but with ADHD you are more likely to have friends and even intimate relationships who also have ADHD or are from an ADHD family. They won't think that you are weird because they already know this behaviour quite well.