[mrmetanoia]

You really do have to protect yourself. I think at some point I felt like if I set boundaries I'd get fired, then I realized if I didn't set boundaries I'd go insane which seemed worse than fired so I started telling people "no," and logging off on time. It's been an improvement.

"Will the fight for our sanity, be the fight of our lives?" - flaming lips

[paulcole]

> You really do have to protect yourself

I don’t know why this is a revelation to so many people.

Who cares about you more than you do? Nobody — especially not anybody at work.

[BehindBlueEyes]

For me the revelation wasn't so much that I have to protect myself but that it wouldn't get me fired.

Maybe it is a revelation for those who haven't been taught to say no outside work?

I was told to be quiet and obey growing up, why would anyone expect me to be equipped to stand up for myself as an adult after that?

[paulcole]

> I was told to be quiet and obey growing up, why would anyone expect me to be equipped to stand up for myself as an adult after that?

Because you are equipped to do it. It’ll be a new experience for you but it shouldn’t take you long to figure out that it’s in your best interests.