[paulcole]

> You really do have to protect yourself

I don’t know why this is a revelation to so many people.

Who cares about you more than you do? Nobody — especially not anybody at work.

[BehindBlueEyes]

For me the revelation wasn't so much that I have to protect myself but that it wouldn't get me fired.

Maybe it is a revelation for those who haven't been taught to say no outside work?

I was told to be quiet and obey growing up, why would anyone expect me to be equipped to stand up for myself as an adult after that?

[paulcole]

> I was told to be quiet and obey growing up, why would anyone expect me to be equipped to stand up for myself as an adult after that?

Because you are equipped to do it. It’ll be a new experience for you but it shouldn’t take you long to figure out that it’s in your best interests.