[pjerem]

I’d say yes. We are all flawed. It’s not because you are busy or because your brain is tired that you don’t love your partner.

Being spontaneous requires energy. A lot of people lack energy but still loves their partner.

Following the prompt isn’t mandatory, just take it as a source of inspiration for when you want to be kind but have no idea.

[outop]

> Being spontaneous requires energy. A lot of people lack energy but still loves their partner.

The point is that you have a limited amount of energy, but you chose to dedicate some of it to something your partner would like.

Optimising by reducing the amount of energy you use to do that defeats the purpose.

[sircastor]

Respectfully, I think you’re limiting the valuation to just the culturally propagated version of “caring”.

Some people wake up naturally in the morning. Some people need an alarm. They can both care deeply about the reason they’re waking up (a job, an appointment, whatever) but for some people, they need the extra help.

For some, setting the reminder is the effort and energy that shows you care. It’s worth saying though that the most important thing is doing the things that show your partner that you care.

[outop]

Waking up on time is an end in itself. The point is not to show that you have made an effort.

For some other things that we might try to do, the point is to make an effort.

[pinusc]

I would say using this app to try and surprise/do nice things for your partner is, in fact, making an effort: going out of your way to think of nice things to do with them.

People are all different. The idea of getting flowers for your partner, or leave cheesy notes for them, might come natural to some and not to others. Another comment pointed out how having ADHD makes it hard to remember to do the sort of stuff this app might suggest, so it can be a great help.

Besides, is this different from scrolling through social media and seeing couples activities and deciding to try them? Is this different from seeing a florist ad while walking and deciding to buy flowers? If anything, going out of your way to install an app shows more care and effort than these "spontaneous" activities.

At any rate, spontaneity is overrated, especially in relationships (maybe because of Hollywood relationships?). Constance, effort, care, are more important... you still need to keep things fresh tho

[outop]

If spontaneity is overrated then why participate in a simulacrum of spontaneity?

This app doesn't suggest that you do longer term things to support your partner and make their life easier. It proposes that you fake being in a honeymoon stage by eg leaving cute little notes.

[pjerem]

> It proposes that you fake being in a honeymoon stage by eg leaving cute little notes.

Well, yes. And you know what ? Faking being in a honeymoon is enjoyable for both you and your partner. As you said, available time is limited, which is also true with your lifetime. Not doing something both you or your partner would enjoy because you feel like it’s not spontaneous is in fact wasting joyful moments.

[bequanna]

Uh huh.

Try having a couple kids and then apply this kind of reasoning. There simply isn’t enough time or energy to do everything you want for your family.

If you can leverage technology and good ideas to enhance your experiences and relationships, do it.

[outop]

You are being quite patronising. I have two children.

[pjerem]

Yeah honestly I’d be very happy to be at the receiving end of such an app.

(But not this one because I’m pretty suspicious about this mandatory account creation and the fact that they didn’t release in France because of data laws - which are not stronger than GDPR)

[Joakim_Habekost]

Hi, Thank you for your comment, regarding the Data Laws in France, they require a datasheet of encryption for Apple Appstore, something our team have never made before. Otherwise the data law is the same, yes. Any tips are welcome.

[pjerem]

If your application doesn’t implement custom encryption code (which it probably does not) you can just check the "None" option, even if your app does use encryption (which it probably does if you are using https for example).

As long as your app is not providing an encryption algorithm, you are fine ignoring this.

It’s also fine if you do use encryption with the Apple provided libraries since in this case you are not providing encryption code but just using it.

In fact, nobody cares about this in France, it looks like Apple is the only one being so bureaucratic about this stupid declaration. It’s pretty specific, absolutely not verified by anyone (our current government is obsessed with public expenses reduction so you can easily imagine that nobody cares about the version of RSA a random foreign app uses).

This declaration is only useful for apps that have encryption in their core business (password managers, encryption of files …).

IIRC, this declaration is only a mean for the national cybersecurity agency to know if a given application can become a threat for national security if it happens to use outdated or flawed encryption. It’s not to give them access to anything (you just declare algorithms, not the keys).

It’s a frequent thing that happens to frighten foreign developers and we regularly have unavailable apps for this reason because it’s true it’s unclear.

[Joakim_Habekost]

Thank you so much for taking your time to write this in-depth comment! Based on advice from you, and others, the app is now launched in EU (incl. France), US, Canada, and UK on both Andriod and iOS. Thx!