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by fargle
769 days ago
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> the other team members are the complete opposite and terrific to work alongside. good! > the defacto leader of our group/team (he has no actual managerial title or responsibilities) belittles or speaks over people all the time > any ideas i have are either dismissed outright or pawned off later as someone else's. not good. as sibling comments have alluded to, you need to fix this issue in place. unless it's the real manager you have a hopeless beef with, it's not time to quit. oh, and i'd expect apathy or a weak response at first. that's pretty normal. welcome to life. /s
the best strategy is to be right. is this guy your actual manager or not? (not) who was the decision responsibility/authority? (not technically him, right?) and so on. you tell the real manager all of this and that you would like to not have technical decisions dictated always from a peer. you would like an area to work that you have some modest authority over. so you need to be assertive. if you don't, you'll just make 15% less and still have the same team member issue somewhere else with a different name. |
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i think i have no legible way of asserting myself, alas. he is a better developer than me, more liked by upper leadership and has a way with words that escapes me.
this coworker was succesful a few years ago in having our former very well-liked and professional project/scrum master thrown out of the team after they had several arguments.
he is comfortable to have around for upper management because he gets things done, only it has to be done his way.
to me it's a case of at some point giving someone a fingertip and eventually the entire hand and arm will be taken.
it basically boiled down to that the project manager felt he wasn't actually in charge of direction or leadership. the jira board would suddenly change without there having been consensus about it, or he would unilaterally have meetings with key stakeholders without inviting this project manager.
i think it hurts more for project leader types to be talked over or go uninvited to meetings than an IC, or maybe i have just gotten used to it