[leinkasorafkt]

thanks for the suggestions!

i think i have no legible way of asserting myself, alas. he is a better developer than me, more liked by upper leadership and has a way with words that escapes me.

this coworker was succesful a few years ago in having our former very well-liked and professional project/scrum master thrown out of the team after they had several arguments.

he is comfortable to have around for upper management because he gets things done, only it has to be done his way.

to me it's a case of at some point giving someone a fingertip and eventually the entire hand and arm will be taken.

it basically boiled down to that the project manager felt he wasn't actually in charge of direction or leadership. the jira board would suddenly change without there having been consensus about it, or he would unilaterally have meetings with key stakeholders without inviting this project manager.

i think it hurts more for project leader types to be talked over or go uninvited to meetings than an IC, or maybe i have just gotten used to it