[Vaslo]

There was a guy in my fraternity who would never do anything fun with the group except on Saturday nights because he would always stay at his dorm and "study." Some of his roommates would come to events and would attest that he was at his dorm before and after they left/arrived back at the dorm, so he wasn't sneaking around having fun. We never did any crazy hazing or many forced events except the week before initiation which was the first week of the following semester, well outside of test time. When he got his grades back, he had C's and below, and failed several classes. Because of this he got his silly nickname: Ferd, because he was a "fake nerd". He missed out on all that fun for nothing.

[mistymountains]

For all you know he had a hard adjustment to the college workload. Maybe his high school was not serious and nobody really challenged him. You all could have interrogated why he may have struggled and shared your strategies for success, lifting him up rather than beating him down. That would make you true “brothers”.

[Vaslo]

What a weird “I hate fraternities” response. It’s clear you’d really struggle with a group that holds itself accountable.

[smallhands]

ever imagine what will happen if he does not study at all