[Gyrantula2]

The irony...

I did this. I cashed out in my 20s, bought a $2m home in the middle of nowhere (that goes a long way out here), and live out my days in my workshop surrounded by singing birds, bees, wildlife, trees and gardens, with views across lakes and plains.

And some cosmopolitan wants to tell me, as they cram another million people into gridlocked high-rises in their smoggy grey hellhole, that we in the country are bad for the environment? Or that the soulless crowds you have to navigate through every morning and evening are friendlier than the neighbours and strangers who wave and chat everywhere I go?

If you're able, get out of the cities. Especially if you have children. You have no idea what you're missing.

[com2kid]

> as they cram another million people into gridlocked high-rises in their smoggy grey hellhole, that we in the country are bad for the environment?

Uh yes, if you shove a million people out in the middle of nowhere, you have to cut down all the nature, remove the wetlands, pave a bunch of really wide roads, and now all of a sudden your paradise is a bland soulless sub-urban hellscape that is no longer environmentally friendly.

As for gridlocked, I can walk to multiple bakeries, grocery stores, and parks. The vast majority of my driving is to places that are less than 15 minutes away.

My rural friends talk about taking a quick trip that's only 90 minutes away. 90 minutes there 90 minutes back, shit, that's 2.5hrs extra spent driving compared to my 30 minute round trip commutes. If I go over the last 5 or 6 months I haven't lost a total of 2.5hrs to gridlock.

> Or that the soulless crowds you have to navigate through every morning and evening are friendlier than the neighbours and strangers who wave and chat everywhere I go?

Why do you think people in the city are soulless? Cities are bastion of art and creativity.

I say high to my neighbors all the time, we get together for drinks and we swap baked goods. This is made all the easier by how close we are together.

Indeed, once I moved into the city, meeting people became easier, and the people around me are friendlier. (And I'm in Seattle, literally the worst city for meeting people in!)

[Gyrantula2]

If anyone proposed housing a million migrants here, we'd sooner build gallows for the genius with that idea than to break ground on high density housing. It's a wildly controversial idea, but you could just stop letting so many people into your city...

Cruising through the countryside at top speed to a larger town with the windows down and the radio up for an hour on the rare occasion I need something urgently is a pleasure compared to sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic to and from work, or crammed into a train with everything around me being suspiciously sticky and slightly smelly twice per day. We have what we need. You'd be surprised how little you miss the overwhelming number of choices and conveniences you have in the city. Anyway, I'm not that remote - I do most of my shopping online so everything is delivered to the door (albeit a day or two later than for you).

It's the look in their eye, or their nature and priorities implicit in their choices. Cities are utterly bereft of soul, spirit, meaning, purpose, culture, etc. Whatever they do have in these respects seems to me like a cynical parody of their true form. They will convene a meeting for consultants to identify an urban area in need of beautification, commission an agendered hippie to plonk some monstrous perverted multicolour sculpture there for millions of dollars and boast about it like this isn't an insult to everything pure, and decent, and good in this world.

The baked goods trading sounds really wholesome, I'm genuinely glad you have that.

Still, there's a good reason city-folk come out here for rest and relaxation while I dread going into the big smoke and get the hell out as soon as I'm done doing what I need to do.

[DiggyJohnson]

What's interesting to me in so many of these discussions is how the core issue turns out to be the commute, more than any other factor. Here we see this happen in a conversation about pros and cons of city living. We also see it in WFH discussions: many staunch WFH proponents focus on doing away with their miserable commute.

All of this is kinda foreign to me, because I've never had a "bad" commute. Right now I'm 14 minutes from work one-way, no traffic in my direction.

This is rambly, and I think you're both making a solid points about something that is fundamentally subjective. So I'll just say that I feel sorry for all of you guys that are hating life during your commute.

[dukeyukey]

Funny thing is I live so much closer to friends in a city than I did in my rural upbringing. I can walk to at least half a dozen friend's places inside 10 minutes right now - in my rural hometown, it was a 20 minute walk to the nearest, and anyone else needed a car.

[grecy]

I couldn’t agree more.

The saying ‘concrete jungle’ is so far off the mark. There’s no similarity between a city and a real jungle.

Once you’ve been out for a while, cities are clearly concrete zoos.

[dukeyukey]

I grew up in a rural farming town, lived in a few large towns/small cities, and now live in the megalopolis of London.

Cities are great! Cities have people, energy, stuff.

[com2kid]

> If anyone proposed housing a million migrants here,

I never said migrants, I was talking about what happens if a million city dwellers take your advice and decide to move to the country. It'd be an environmental nightmare!

> compared to sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic to and from work

Again, I rarely have bumper to bumper traffic, when I do, it is for a handful of minutes.

> You'd be surprised how little you miss the overwhelming number of choices and conveniences you have in the city.

In a given week, all less than a 15 minute drive:

Gym class with my son Swimming classes with my son BJJ classes Weekly library visit Weekly shopping trips with my son

Weekend choices are the Zoo (15 minutes away) Aquarium (an entire 20 minutes away!), or parks (plenty to choose from in walking distance). Heck there is now an indoor ice skating rink (less than 20 minutes away).

All of these are things I do every week. (Except for ice skating, I'd fall on my arse).

Of course there is plenty more. Just because I'm in a city doesn't mean I'm stuck in the city, in under a 2 hours drive I can reach the following:

1. Multiple ski resorts 2. An almost uncountable number of incredible camp sites 3. Countless small ocean side towns 4. Multiple amazing mountain day hikes

A bit further away there is an actual honest to goodness rain forest (3.5hrs) or I can go play on an active volcano (3.5hrs)

Lake Washington is just a handful miles away, everything from renting a boat for the day to seasonal hydroplane races to lake side picnics.

If I'm bored, I can go down to a local comedy club, hit up a poetry reading, multiple books clubs, or just go see a live concert. Seattle of course also has a huge sports scene, not my style, but between Football, Soccer, Baseball, and Ice Hockey, people who do like sports are pretty well entertained.

I was not expecting any of this when I moved to the city. I did not realize how pleasant live is here. I'm not living in Manhattan or London. The city isn't smog covered. If you ever fly into Seattle you can look out the airplane window and see how green everything is.

> Cities are utterly bereft of soul, spirit, meaning, purpose, culture, etc.

I mean, grunge, punk, and even multiple sub-genres of EDM, all sprung from cities. If you want to be incredibly elitist, plenty of classical music (and art, and paintings!) came from urban areas as well.

Saying cities don't have purpose or spirit is silly. I've travelled to multiple world cities, and each one has a completely different spirit. You may not like the spirit of a given city, and that is OK, but saying they don't have spirit isn't being honest. Given the site we are on, we can likely agree that the spirit of the Bay Area is technology at any cost, hustling and selling your ideas and trying to go big or die trying. Someone can say that spirit sucks, but no one can deny that it exists!

> commission an agendered hippie to plonk some monstrous perverted multicolour sculpture there for millions of dollars and boast about it like this isn't an insult to everything pure, and decent, and good in this world.

So ignore the civic stuff? The problem with public art pieces is that they have to not offend anyone, so after every interest group in the world has filed their objections, the artwork often ends up being super boring.

Meanwhile, plenty of cities have entire blocks set aside for street artists to make incredible murals. Local artists have open workshop days where you can come in and talk to them about what they are making. Guerrilla art exists. One time some friends and I stumbled across a tiny gallery hidden in an unlabeled building that was open at 10pm! Just, walking around, boom, art gallery.

> while I dread going into the big smoke and get the hell out as soon as I'm done doing what I need to do.

If you are going to the downtown part of a city, yeah, it is stressful and it sucks. Likewise, if I go into a rural area and head to a rendering plant, or a tire factory, that also sucks, but it wouldn't be fair for me to highlight the worst part of rural living with the best part of rural living!

Meanwhile one of my most memorable experiences in London was just walking around and just randomly stumbling onto Columbia Flower Road ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Columbia_Road_Flower_Market).

Or the time I was staying in a NYC AirBnB and I woke up one morning to a food festival outside my door.

The amazing and talented buskers in Mexico City.

The great street food that is available almost everyplace except in American cities (ugh).

And to be with all of this, I'm not saying rural living has no advantages. As a child I used to spend every summer down with family by the Russian River in California, and even to this day I have friends in rural places that I go to visit, dropping in for a day or sometimes a week.

I totally understand what the nice parts of that are, but I didn't understand the nice parts of city living until I moved from suburbia into a city.

[renewiltord]

Oh I didn't say it was unpleasant. It's bad for the environment. High CO2 cost, requires interfering with the local ecosystem, poor land use etc. I don't see why this upsets people so much. It's just an honest accounting of the costs. Living inside a US National Park would be both lovely and bad for it.

This sort of trade-off between pleasantness and damage is common. For instance, I like traveling the world and in first class you've got half the seat-density of economy so the environmental cost is massive. But it's really nice and there's no way I'd prefer not to do it. It's just also bad for the environment.

My wife and I just returned from a two-week long vacation in Patagonia. It's a stunning place and you'll be surrounded by unbelievable natural beauty. But the same lovely glaciers I mourned the melting of, I contributed to the melting of by flying there. Both things are true.

[lores]

Some people, like me, prefer the stimulation of cities to the quietness of the countryside. And city dwellers have a lower environmental footprint than rural people (in the West), because of efficiency in transport, recycling/treatment and land use. It's not a mystery, you can find dozens of sources in a second work your favourite search engine.

[arthur_sav]

Exactly. Living comfortably in the middle of nowhere is a luxury and that's why all the rich do it. Everybody else needs to be close to the rat race otherwise they can't afford to eat.

[outcoldman]

Just want to say, appreciate the discussion about the environment. Never actually thought about what is better towns (rural areas) vs cities.

And I am sure the answer is not as simple as it sounds. But my guess, there are too many people in the world, and living in the house in that sense is a privilege.

[dukeyukey]

Eh, I grew up in one of the most rural parts of the UK. It's overrated. The scenary is nice and it's a safe, quiet place to grow up, but if you had ambitions beyond local teacher it's a maddening place. And it's the filtering effect - the kind of people I get along with don't move to random farming villages in the middle of nowhere, so while I had friends, I never had that uber-close "I get you" thing. Since moving to London, it's happened a lot more.

[PH95VuimJjqBqy]

My favorite is when they claim rural areas means destitution and also that public transportation can replace vehicles.

There are a _lot_ of people on this site who have no idea what actual rural looks like.

[gcheong]

Was that 2m mostly house or mostly land? I think if I were to go that route I’d be looking for more land than house.