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by AnimalMuppet 892 days ago
You're boring to everyone else? Fine. Don't be boring to your kids. Be there for them. "Dad spent time with me" will matter to your kids far more than being able to tell some rando about your hobby will matter to said rando.

(Don't be boring to your wife, either.)

In fact, don't be boring to the neighbor kids. You want your house to be the place they hang out, rather than your kids hanging out at the neighbor's house. That way you find out what's going on in your kids' lives sooner, when you can do something about it, rather than later when you maybe can't.

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Unfortunately I think I _am_ boring to my wife and kids. I spend lots of time with them and I am very attentive to their needs, but I feel that I don't come in with my own interests or personality.

But I like the tack of this comment, I should focus my attention on the core set of people I care about.

Would you agree that you have _plenty_ of interests and a personality (because everyone has!), but you have some underlying assumptions they are "wrong" for some reason?
One way to not be boring to your kids: Dad jokes. Instead of their feeling bored, every single day, you can give them entirely novel reasons to feel mild anguish at your humor.
This! My favorite dad joke is that only 1 in 10 of my dad jokes are any good, but it's fully dependent on the first 9 being not :)