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by mjthrowaway1 960 days ago
Ah, I’m in this boat. My advice: stop trying to force a job. Explore your interests until you find a spark. Talk to a lot of people about what they’re up to. Maybe you want to go on one of their journeys for a bit.
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Similar situation. I ended up paying a few bucks for an extension/guest access pass at the local university. I just started auditing lectures in any and all departments, 20+ hrs/week for a few semesters. Eventually I found myself getting really interested in one subject, took all the classes available, and that's what I decided to do for career 2.0
i feel like a 30-50 year old sitting alone in a lecture with mainly 18-20 year olds is… not super well received most of the time?
I seriously doubt any student would care, honestly. When I was a freshman there was an older guy in our courses who was transitioning careers. He was a smoker like half of our group at the time, so we spent a lot of time just shooting the shit with the guy between classes.

Also, if the guy paid for an extension pass and was auditing courses "officially", he's well within his rights.

Best advice.
I agree that this is the best advice.

I was really worried about what I would do AFTER so I just kept working a day job even after I made FU money.

The difference was that I started working for different reasons which was meeting people and learning about the problems they faced.

Meeting new people and deepening relationships with people I already knew has been great for my mental health too.

It’s given me cool things to work on as well.

to be honest i don’t want someone to be on my journey unless they commit to it. i don’t need some guy on my journey who is never going to invest or commit and is just there to pass time.
Well certainly, everything is a negotiation and boundaries are important. Commitment means different things to different people. 50% of first marriages end of divorce. If you’re asking for more commitment then that for these transient/ephemeral experiences, hooboy do I have bad news for you. Take what you can get but hope for the best.