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You will need to build up habits, slowly. Discipline is mostly a collection of habits. Look at Atomic Habits for example. If you can't manage to read the book (or listen to it), there are some YouTube and TikTok videos about it. Or a first habit to implement could be to read the book for 10 minutes each day before going to bed (tie it to something you do every day).

Another angle might be mindfulness training (meditation). If you can become more aware "in the moment" of when you become distracted or side-tracked, then it should become easier to preempt it.

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I have read Atomic Habits and meditate almost everyday. I also made some minor changes to my life learning from AH.

I don't have an attention deficit. Neither do I use social media or other common culprits of the day. I don't have any problem focusing or learning. Or, as another user mentioned- accountability problem.

My problem is staying focused at something for months or years. Something shinier comes along and I switch to that.

When I was a child, I got away unaware because everything required little effort from my part. I barely studied outside of my classroom and still aced all tests. In college, although I got below average, I still graduated. With almost zero effot. About a dozen of my peers dropped out even after a lot of effort. It was a hard major.

I am responding to all comments as the writing is also reflective to myself.

I think I also have the problem of being unable to assign priorities to things that I want to do. I want to do a lot- and I want them now. I have to change this, I guess.

And I need to finish things that I start.

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>And I need to finish things that I start.

Do you, though? Try reading Barbara Sher's "Refuse to Choose". There's a place in the world for everyone, and not everyone has to be an administrator to succeed.

[165iq]

Thank you for your comment.

I will check out the book.

Yes, I believe what you say. But I will have to pay the bills and get fast internet and have money to pay health insurance. I also want to start a family some day.

And do these, I need a job. Rather than a boring, Dilbert type job, I would prefer an R&D position, or be a professor, etc.

And to do these, I need discipline, and that is why I am trying hard, and making this post to see if I can get a good advice.

Rather than working in fintech, or at a webdev consultancy firm, I would like a better environment and an esoteric job. I have mostly failed because the lack of discipline and work ethics.

I think I was able to convey why I am trying hard and in distress about my lack of work ethics and discipline.