[maze-le]

I guess some people are uncomfortable with the issues raised in the article. Alternative explanation: some users are trigger-happy and flag an article based on the headline before they have a chance to read it. ~Its un-flagged by now~, and I vouched too BTW...

Its a good article and a balanced discussion about feminism would be very nice to have here...

[msla]

The author questions whether men are "entitled" to their own bodies.

Saying people's preferences are "Problematic" is a way to pressure them into sex: "You're a horrible person if you don't have sex with me!"

[maze-le]

Yes and if you'd continued to read the article, you would have noticed that this situation is used as an example about the problematic aspects of sexuality in our society -- its a segue to an argument, not the argument itself.

> You are not entitled to sex with anyone, but people can have preferences that are problematic

You rather took this one line out of context and interpreted in the worst possible way.

[sltkr]

You are missing the point: saying that some preferences are problematic while others are not by itself creates an unfair double standard, even if you pay lip-service to the idea of individual right to consent. When a man rejects a woman because she's obese, that's problematic. When a woman rejects a man because he's short, that's not problematic.

I also find it sexist that both examples of racial preferences involve men, when it's well-established that women have stronger racial preferences than men, for example, white women prefer white men over Asian men (the least desirable group of men) by a much larger margin than white men prefer white women over Black women (the least desirable group of women). You could probably do the Grindr experiment on Tinder and find that the white man has an easier matching with women than the Asian man (especially if "Asian" means "Indian man" and not "K-pop idol dreamboat").

It's also strange to focus on men, when women are the pickier gender, especially when it comes to sex but to lesser extent also when it comes to dating. Even the undesirable black woman probably has an easier time hooking up than most white men.

Of course, it all makes sense when you realize that most modern-day feminists are only interested in pointing out the “problematic” behavior of men and how it impacts women, and never the other way around.

Finally, you phrased it as “THE problematic aspects of sexuality in our society” but the crux is that defining WHICH aspects are problematic is itself subjective and political. In Western society feminism dominates the institutions, so we get the result that "men rejecting black women" is problematic and "women rejecting Asian men" is not problematic. Of course, this isn't at all objective.

[vacuity]

The double standards are real, and I say that as someone who is quite leftist (as vague of a term as it is, I think the general meaning is understood). The social justice warriors overshot in terms of equality. The inequal treatment of domestic violence in the US is also a big issue. Not that any domestic violence should be tolerated, but men are often abused and powerless to report it.

[vacuity]

That is dubious but people are calling it out and everything else seems not egregious, so it seems better to not flag it and let the discussion carry on.

Nevermind, seems like I suffered from the same misunderstanding. I even read the next part but I forgot.

[tehwebguy]

No but it’s possible the others that flagged it had the same misunderstanding