| What the writer actually discovered is what meditation is all about. Being in the present moment. Deciding not to let your ego control your day is a major paradigm upgrade and achievement of one of many steps of enlightenment. The outcome may seem similar but it is not. The writer does mention that the effort is light, and that realization is monumental, but it also means that the writer is now infinitely flexible to spend their time effectively based on what is going on in the present moment. This opens up new possibilities and allows the subconscious to come up with ideas that the conscious mind and ego could never dream up when they focus so hard on a rigid approach to life. Concluding there is a right and wrong way of doing things crystallizes your life and not only is such an approach is limiting and restricting, but such control over a schedule is an illusion and makes you focus on the future. It constantly makes you play catch up and is never fun, leading to self inflicted misery and depression that you’re not good enough based on some non realistic ideal. It is more effective to see yourself as multiple parts, or a “We”. In this case, the conscious and the subconscious. Whether you like it or not, the subconscious is actually the one doing things and the conscious mind (ego) is the feedback loop. It is helpful to see the two as a coach and its players. The coach (ego)’s job is to be used as a focusing tool and feedback loop. The players (subconscious)’s job is to do the work and let the coach know what it notices. Such a metaphor helps you understand how your self talk should sound. Coaches are not on the playing field but guide the players towards a goal without trying to control the game or action in this case. But once the game starts, the coach is hands off. Self talk should be positive and accepting. Life is life and there are many things out of your control like interruptions and tasks taking more time and resources than originally anticipated. Simply observe and adjust your actions, put in the work, and you will eventually arrive at your goal or at least be at peace knowing you did everything you could. Such is life that it has an uncountable number of variables that are out of your control and accepting that helps ground you in reality. The problem arises when the coach (ego) wants to control the outcome of the game and be a player. I call this the ego trying to be general manager of the universe. It tries to control things it cannot control and thus is frustrated that the outcome does not go in its favor a majority of the time. It also puts in an immense amount of strain and wastes a ton of energy trying to do something it cannot. Thus the coach suffers greatly and still gets no closer to playing on the field instead of the players. Instead, run the subconscious program (complete the task) and get out of the way by keeping your self talk quiet. Don’t waste energy talking to yourself while you perform the task. Then afterwards, reflect upon what happened and let the conscious tell the subconscious how it can do better next time. To let it sink in, visualize the outcome in your minds eye, then trust that your subconscious will do better next time. This is what being in the present moment is all about. |
I've recently learned this lesson: prevent my thoughts from going wild while I'm trying to focus (putting my psychic effort) onto something. By this way, I can stay with the "flow" longer. I coalesce all of my worries, ideas and judges to the end of the day and decide what to improve. Life feels much lighter instead of constantly judging myself.