Go to South America, or Africa. America and Europe are great about building things and organizing society, but when it comes to enjoying life there's a lot to learn from the South, actually. Good luck :)
Accepting a partner is not a single-point decision, but a process. You have to know each other, build trust, build joy, etc. I don't think that's the main driver for most women. Smart people will care about who you are, not what you have. Good luck