[crazygringo]

A lot of people genuinely feel super self-conscious about dancing and do need that convincing to give themselves permission to dance. And once they do, they love it. A lot of people need to also have a couple drinks to loosen up enough to enjoy it as well. I was in both of these categories for a looong time.

So it's not a "god given duty to convince", it's just that it's a genuine act of friendship and support that a lot of people need. The thing is, unless you know somebody incredibly well, there's really no way to tell who needs the convincing and then will enjoy it, and who doesn't and won't enjoy dancing even after they're convinced.

So people try to convince you for a bit, and if you still refuse, then they leave you alone. It seems like a workable compromise. Same as trying to invite you to a party three times and then giving up when you say you're really not coming.

So I agree it's annoying when you really don't want to do something. But I hope you can understand that it is other people genuinely trying to be helpful, in a way that is often helpful for others. Sometimes people really do need help to overcome shyness, even when they already want to.

[RjQoLCOSwiIKfpm]

> So people try to convince you for a bit, and if you still refuse, then they leave you alone. It seems like a workable compromise.

And what they forget while doing that is that they are not the only person existing in the universe:

Others will also attempt to convince the very same non-dancing person to dance.

So if you are at a party, sitting at the bar not dancing, you will have to have this discussion like 5 times in a single evening.

And if you enjoy going to parties even though you don't dance and therefore go regularly, then over the decades you will have to have the discussion thousands of times - which isn't a workable compromise anymore but just an annoyance.