[kbrannigan]

You should hear the corporatized therapy advice on tiktok.

It's full of nuggets like:

- you're not responsible for your parents, you should never have to take care of them because they gave birth to you.

- you owe you family nothing.

It made me sad, if it weren't for my parents I wouldn't be here today.

[PuppyTailWags]

I'm of two minds. If course it sucks to be ungrateful to someone who sacrifices real economic opportunity for you.

On the other hand, it's super important for parents to not view their children as property. You're raising something to eventually become a fully fledged, full-agented human, and if they still feel obligated to you purely because of your blood (vs out of seriously analyzing and then concluding that a relationship with you is worth investing into) then you've failed to raise this human with a full sense of agency.

Yes, children shouldn't have to take care of their parents just because the parents birthed them. Children should take care of their parents because the child-parent relationship continues to be great.

[lotsofpulp]

> It made me sad, if it weren't for my parents I wouldn't be here today.

I am a parent, and I want my kids to feel like they owe me nothing. If they want to help me or or spend time with me, I want it to be because they enjoy it. And I absolutely do not feel that they need to take care of me.

I do not want to become a burden for them in a way that prevents them from doing what they want.