[ethics13]

My experience of the hospice system is the opposite of yours. My dad was 73, passed away from cancer that took him way too soon as he was more active than people half his age. He swam, ran, worked out everyday. Was one of the most positive people in the world.

The hospice people were absolute angels as to how they handled him and his last months. Truly the most compassionate people work in these places and it was good to have at least that in his dying days.

I am sorry for your loss and the experience you've had with your dad.

[bane]

Thanks, I appreciate it, and am happy to hear that your own experience was far more positive than our own.

I take comfort that my father's wishes were to spend his final few months at home and die there. It took a herculean effort on behalf of all of us to pull it off, pulling 24 hour bedside shifts for months took a toll. But we all have zero regrets about it, and despite the grief, was a very beautiful way to honor and support him.