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by BLKNSLVR
1286 days ago
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Replying here as your other post seems to have been deleted. I feel for your situation, and I might be coming across as using a sledgehammer when a scalpel was the right tool for the job. Electronic devices are a tool just like any other, neither good nor bad, where the 'juice' is in how they're used. Unmonitored, unconsidered, overused pacifier = bad in most circumstances. My kids are on electronic devices more than I'm comfortable with, but I work with tech and am potentially more of a techno-nerd than a number of the SWEs I work with, and so I potentially set a bad example. But I also engage with my kids about it, and have done so since they were able to understand words, plus they also have real-world friends and hobbies that balance it out, that we've made sure to encourage and model as they've grown up. It takes time, and any unconsidered 'banning' can well be as bad as unconsidered permissiveness. I think "considered attention and understanding of the context" is closer to the scalpel type answer in regards to shaping a child into a functioning adult, no matter the topic. |
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I agree with your thoughts. It is very important to understand context when offering parental advice (and especially judgement), just as it is important to understand what our kids do with technology.
In my opinion, a lot of bad parenting stems from not bothering to spend time and engage with one's children enough. That is why I don't engage in debates about quick fixes in parenting anymore. I think that the entire idea that off-the-shelf parenting advice works for complex problems is a bit toxic.