[roofone]

I like the straightforward, logical approach -- it's helpful for me to think about the process in those terms. Thank you.

However, thinking about the process this way makes it really apparent that I've got no desire in trying to make friends -- each of those steps individually feels like a nearly insurmountable nightmare for me... much less doing all of them (and more than once!).

[bgroat]

And that's kind of my point.

The little bit you know about me from this thread... would you want to grab a beer if all you had to do was read the text and confirm you were available?

These steps ARE scary for some people... and that's okay... I'm happy to do it. I just want to get to you know you!

[roofone]

That makes sense and I appreciate the reply.

I'd probably choose not to grab a beer -- unless the social cost/effort in saying no was higher than saying yes. Quite likely I'd feel put upon with having to respond in a way that I thought didn't offend you...and all by pithy text messages. What a hassle!

Totally get that's a me problem though and I'd fall into your 70%.

Thanks for the insights though -- I find the concept of friendship fascinating (if perplexing).

[bgroat]

In my mind this was was “best case engagement”

I told you what I’m about.

You told me your preferences.

They don’t mesh, so we both split after having spent a pleasant 90 seconds