[roofone]

That makes sense and I appreciate the reply.

I'd probably choose not to grab a beer -- unless the social cost/effort in saying no was higher than saying yes. Quite likely I'd feel put upon with having to respond in a way that I thought didn't offend you...and all by pithy text messages. What a hassle!

Totally get that's a me problem though and I'd fall into your 70%.

Thanks for the insights though -- I find the concept of friendship fascinating (if perplexing).

[bgroat]

In my mind this was was “best case engagement”

I told you what I’m about.

You told me your preferences.

They don’t mesh, so we both split after having spent a pleasant 90 seconds