If you ask people if they know something and they already do, they can sometimes be insulted. I'm never insulted when people do that, I think it's considerate, but I have seen people get all "of course I know that, what do you think I am, an idiot" on me.
I still ask if I'm not sure of someone's level of expertise - I think any reasonable person would react positively.
Yup, absolutely; this is yet another angle on empathetic communication. When in the listener's seat, it's important to be mindful of the fact that the presenter is trying their best at the difficult task of conveying this information to you.
I've found it super helpful to frame conversations establishing shared context with "I have no idea what you do or don't know about X" It helps re-center the conversation so that I'm the one who's ignorant, and the other person potentially has an opportunity to show off.
Yea, that’s simple in a one on one. But how do you simultaneously provide the right level of jargon and context in a standup with a mixed crowd of MBAs and developers? Either the PM is frustrated that they have to listen to you go in the weeds, or they don’t understand why is this is important, or the fellow dev isn’t getting enough technical detail to understand precisely the crux if you’ve oversimplified.
I still ask if I'm not sure of someone's level of expertise - I think any reasonable person would react positively.