[yibberish]

talking about it does not quite bring it to their doorstep; but it surely takes you back there; it's understandable to not want to go back.

your choice to shoulder this burden for all, is well your choice. but be advised that this choice may have unintended consequences in a longer term. consequences of your choice to witholding bad things "for them".

I don't belive you're doing this (bearing the horrible things) only to shield your relatives from your past. it is important you recognize that it's something you do for yourself, you are the main person who doesn't want to remember whatever horrible events you had to experience; don't pin this choice on them.

[krrrh]

He didn’t say anything about not revisiting those events personally or with other vets, he said by with “people who weren’t there”. Give a guy a break for choosing to not sit his kids down to hear all the gory details.

[standardUser]

Perhaps if we were all a little more exposed to the horrors of war we wouldn't so eagerly vote for war-hungry leaders over and over and over.

[yibberish]

I'm not telling him to go scare his kids. I'm pointing out some possible self-deceit.

"I did it for them!".. sure, why not? but my point is that first and foremost he's making those choices for himself; which is pefrectly fine. what's not fine (IMO) is to pretend such choices aren't selfish.

[jimbokun]

Who gives you the authority to judge the morality and motivations behind this person's actions?

[yibberish]

I have de-subscribed from authority.

I speak from my own experience, if it helps it helps, if it doesn't just leave it. maybe it wasn't meant for you

[virtual_void]

These things aren’t binary. They aren’t simply this or that. Both can be true or neither or some combination.

Your claim of selfishness seems to be unwarranted (and perhaps a little mean spirited), how can you possibly tell?