[yibberish]

I'm not telling him to go scare his kids. I'm pointing out some possible self-deceit.

"I did it for them!".. sure, why not? but my point is that first and foremost he's making those choices for himself; which is pefrectly fine. what's not fine (IMO) is to pretend such choices aren't selfish.

[jimbokun]

Who gives you the authority to judge the morality and motivations behind this person's actions?

[yibberish]

I have de-subscribed from authority.

I speak from my own experience, if it helps it helps, if it doesn't just leave it. maybe it wasn't meant for you

[virtual_void]

These things aren’t binary. They aren’t simply this or that. Both can be true or neither or some combination.

Your claim of selfishness seems to be unwarranted (and perhaps a little mean spirited), how can you possibly tell?